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It was 3pm on a Sunday when me (30 year old Chinese female) and my 12 year old female companion boarded an empty 7 train at Main Street in Flushing. It was the last stop so the trains are parked until more people board. I noticed a man peering into the train who then sat across from us. I didn’t think much of it until I looked up and saw that he had exposed himself in front of us. I was shocked but immediately grabbed my companion’s arm and led her away. We boarded two car trains over. As soon as the train left the station. I called 911.
The man is in his 50′s. He was wearing a grey t-shirt and a hat (black or gray). He had a black messenger bag which he put on top of his lap to conceal what he was doing. I hope the sicko gets caught!!!! And I know many victims of flashers were able to take a picture, but I was with a 12 year old on a train. I don’t know what the guy might do if he saw me take a pic of him. Our “pic-or-it-didn’t-happened” obsession has to stop! I don’t have a pic. But it HAPPENED.
While walking from the subway ONE block to catch my train (metro north) on 125th, I was followed the entire block by a man. He verbally harassed me, and I was terrified. The worst part is that I have seen him a few times since the incident. Which means he clearly lives on 125th and probably harasses women on a daily basis. Why is he not locked up?
This morning I was running up Fort George Hill in Inwood, around 6:30am. I was on the sidewalk, and a man in a black car trailed me for blocks, driving slowly and shouting “Baby” over and over. I tried to ignore him. He got out of the car, and I figured that since I was running I’d leave him behind me and that would be that. Suddenly, I was pulled backward, as he grabbed my arm from behind.
I shouted “let go you fucking creep.” He did let go. Then he got back in his car and went back to trailing me.
It was pretty clear that he wasn’t going to stop. Ignoring him didn’t seem effective. I was not going to spend a 4 mile run feeling threatened, so I ran out into the street and yelled at him:
Me: [incoherent rant about rape culture and objectification.]
Him: You have a lot of energy.
Me: Fuck you. [more ranting about threatening behavior].
Him: I just wanted to–
Me: I give no shits about anything you think. You do not follow a woman on the street.
Him, with puppy eyes: Not even for Half a Block????
Me: Not for any reason. [probably more ranting]. Drive. Away.
…I ran back to the sidewalk and kept running. He did drive away, thankfully.
What the fuck is wrong with our men that they think this kind of threatening behavior is charming and acceptable?? All that I saw was “Here is a guy who doesn’t think no means no.”
One time I was walking with my friend at around 7 o’clock. It was winter time, so it was pretty dark out, and we were heading back home. All of a sudden a man comes up to her and holds her by her shoulders and puts his forehead to hers. At first we were both very surprised and shocked and didn’t know what to do, so we just stood there. Then he was about to kiss her so she pushed him away and we both ran away very frightened. We never walked down that block again in the night time in fear that we may see him again.
I was walking with my best friend one night at around 8 o’clock. We were just walking and talking. When the traffic light turned red, a car suddenly stopped not too far from us. One of the passengers in the car decided to open up his door and scream, “Hey shawty shake that ass,” and kept saying really disturbing and perverted things to us. Then he started laughing really loudly and closed his door and drove away. What makes him think he can say that to 2 fifteen year olds?!
“Nice legs”. Walking down the street at 10:00 am. Sigh.
4:00 pm, I was walking down the street, was approached with just another uninvited “you’re so good looking, put a smile on your face.”
A guy about 6 feet tall was sweeping in front of a deli at Lincoln and Washington. He had on a waist apron and a neutral colored striped shirt. At 7:30AM I’m walking north on Lincoln, and as I walk by he says, “Good Morning, Sexy.” I stop and look at him and say, “Don’t say that. It’s the morning. What’s wrong with you? I’m trying to walk to work and you’re being disgusting.”
As I’m saying this he smiles and looks down as he sweeps. Then he stops smiling and starts saying loudly, “Good Morning. Good Morning. Good Morning.” I say, “Go fuck yourself.” And walk away.
I wish I had stopped and asked the other people around if they had witnessed this happening. I want to start doing that. We all should. I want to get everyone’s attention around me when I’m harassed and tell them what happened and ask them to come with me while I say to the harasser, “Stop harassing women.”