stalking, Story

Followed But Not Helped

he followed me about a block but I turned to go into a house. Nice fellas on the block were aware he was following me.

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stalking, Story, verbal

Maria’s Story: Trapped

This morning on my way to work, as I was walking and on the phone (headphones) talking to my dad a man decided to talk dirty to me. The street was crowded, just a block away from the subway stop, a guy is on the phone in front of me, I am telling my dad that a random man is talking dirty to me but I am hoping he will walk away. Instead he gets closer and walking next to me. I started runing towards the man in front of me so he could hear what the other guy was telling me. The guy instead decided to walk faster. The man walked faster and closer while talking dirty. Then he started talking about my backpack which made me think that he would assault me to rob my backpack. At this point I turned, I say “Leave me alone”, then he gets even more into it, closer, worse talk; then I hang up to my dad and ask Siri to call 911. The guy in front of me turns, looks at us, runs to the Dunkin Donuts, turns again, stares at us and walks in leaving me alone in the street with this crazy man.

I run up the stairs while talking to the 911 lady, the man continues insulting me and hears me giving my location and his description so he runs away.

4 police cars show up to assist me in less than 3 mininutes, but they cannot do anything because the man has not touched me.

I have never felt violated this way, I have never felt so unprotected, I was not able to cross the street, run to a police car, get inside the Dunkin Donuts, I WAS TRAPPED!

What can I do in the future? What can my daughter do if she find herself in that situation? My sister? All women??

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nonverbal harassment, Story, verbal

Hannah’s Story: Not Your Model

Turned onto 36th St off 7th Ave and walked through a group of 3 men, all much taller than me. One jumps in front of me with his phone out saying something like “hey pretty lady smile for the camera.” I pushed past them, turned back, and the following exchange ensued:
Me: “That was incredibly rude.”
Him: “I’m not rude, you’re a diva.”
Me: “I’m not a diva. Just because you like how I look doesn’t give you the right to jump in front of me and try to take a picture of me. That’s rude.”
His friends stayed silent and he continued to yell at me about how I thought I was such hot shit as I entered a nearby building.
Later, leaving the building they were still there and he yelled at me again. I yelled back to fuck off and back off, and people nearby looked at me like I was the one in the wrong for responding like that.

It was the middle of a Saturday afternoon, broad daylight, and there were other people on the street who ignored the situation. It’s incredibly frustrating when the person harassing doesn’t seem to understand how they might be out of line, even when you try to explain to them. Made me feel incredibly helpless and angry.

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stalking, Story, verbal

A Catcalling Gauntlet

3PM on a Thursday: Walked up west side of Broadway b/t 27th St & 32nd St (Harold Sq). Counted 5 catcallers, one of which followed me 2 blocks until I confronted him. Between 29th & 30th St was esp bad – sort of a catcalling gauntlet.

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Lucy’s Story: Just Don’t Comment on Women’s Bodies!

It’s a beautiful sunny day and I’m in a tank top and yoga pants walking home from work. I’m 8 months pregnant, and there are a few guys hanging around outside a convenience store smoking. One of them yells, “Hey! You look gorgeous pregnant!” I turned around and said, “that’s kind of gross of you.” He totally flipped out and did the whole “WHAT? I’m complimenting you! What’s the matter with you? It’s not like I said you have a fat ass or nice tits.” Meanwhile, another man standing nearby had said “congrats, miss!” And I told the first guy, “no, that’s not a compliment because it doesn’t make me feel good–THIS guy just gave me a compliment, he said congratulations, which has nothing to do with making comments about my body.” The first guy finally said, “okay, if it offended you, I’m sorry, I hope you have a nice day.” The second guy was clearly pleased with himself for saying “the right thing” to me and totally backed me up while I schooled Guy #1 and his friends.

I wish I’d been more articulate in the moment, but basically, women’s bodies are NOT FOR COMMENTARY while walking down the street–doesn’t matter if we are pregnant, skinny, voluptuous, clothed, half-clothed, etc. JUST DON’T COMMENT ON WOMEN’S BODIES!!!

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nonverbal harassment, Story

Being Left Alone is a Privilege

On my way home from work today (around 8:30PM),a man in dark clothing walking in the opposite direction began mirroring my movement as I walked down the block. I moved to the right so I wouldn’t run into him, and he, walking towards me, also moved to my right (his left). I then moved to the left, and he also moved to my left (his right). So clearly he was trying to corner me. Before I had time to react, he made his final step towards me, standing 6 inches apart. He was stood stiffly with his arms to his side, staring straight ahead as if I was just an obstacle in his path. He didn’t even say a word.

I was in such fear and shock at the moment that I had forgotten that I even had pepper spray on me; I felt absolutely defenseless. The only thing I did then was scream, “WHAT THE F**K!!!” I felt thankful that nothing else had come of it and he walked away right afterward. It is seriously a privilege to be left alone on the street – a privilege that most men in NY have, but women don’t.

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nonverbal harassment, Story, verbal

HOLLA ON THE GO: Not My Fault That You’re A Perv!

This man ‘fell’ to the floor to look up my skirt. When I took his picture, someone proceed to tell me it was my fault because I was ‘a white trash bitch’.

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Homophobic, Story, verbal

Jacky’s Story: No Popcorn For You

I’m a female, just last week my girl and I were walking down main st flushing. I’m holding her waist and what not and these 3 men are walking our direction. The man in front leans over towards my girl and says
….. “Hey baby let me get some popcorn” , she tells him to “stfu” and we keep walking. So in that second I let go of her and tell him to “show some respect” and this happens
He: “wtf shut up I wasn’t talking to you”
Me: “idc don’t disrespect her , she’s a woman”
He: he starts laughing “yo shut up B**ch , you and your beat up shoes. You over here tryna act like a man. It was just a compliment.”
Me: “you think you’re a man , over here disrespecting a woman. You ain’t
S**t.”
At that moment I’m so heated up that I turn around, grab my girl and start walking away. As I’m walking away he keeps and talking and the other 2 men join him and one of them says “Go home and put on a dress, you’re a woman”……….

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