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There’s a group of guys that skulk around the corner of 31st and 8th, by Jimmy’s. Usually, they just shout things like “Hey mama” or “Mmm, girl,” but last night, one of them wormed through a crowd between me and them and kissed my ear, sneaking back into the crowd before I could turn around to see who it was.
While waiting for the train this morning, a man asked me the time. I told him “9:30″ and kept it moving. There was a timeclock in the station; He didn’t need to bother me. He followed me down the platform and attempted to engage me in a staring contest. I moved to a different part of the platform and he followed. I got on the train and he followed me around the train car. I abruptly stopped and walked to the other side. The man then continued the staring contest but with a different female. I started blatantly taking pictures of him with my phone. He ended up switching train cars two stations later.
No one should have to endure constant verbal sexual harassment. No one should be uncomfortable every single day on their way to work. Complimenting my body while I am just trying to get to my job is not flattering or endearing. It horrifies me how many of my male friends think that it is ok, that I should be happy because I’m “young and pretty, and when you get old you’ll wish men were looking at you.” No I will not. I would never give the time of day (pun intended) to someone who wants to talk to me solely because of how I look. Compliment my mind before you try to get inside my body.
While walking to the grocery store around 730PM Wednesday night, a man turning the corner started making kiss noises at me with his mouth. He proceeded to follow me a block a half continuing the noises before I abruptly stopped and turned around. He looked startled but continued on his way.
I shouldn’t have to alter my route to the grocery store to accommodate verbal sexual harassment. I should be able to feel safe while walking just a few blocks from my home to buy myself some food. This needs to stop. It’s breaking me inside.
I was waiting for food at a Chinese restaurant with my friend. A man asked me for money and I told him no. He told me I should “say it nice”. He asked me, “Do you know where you are?” I didn’t say anything. He said, “Bitch, I will rape you.” “I will fucking kill you.” He started walking toward me and a man came out from the kitchen and put his hands up in front of the person who was threatening me.The man who was threatening me looked over the shoulder of the restaurant worker and said, “Bitch, you lucky.”
I don’t know how to regain my sense of power and safety, because any time I try to use my voice to say “No” it elicits a super aggressive response.
I was locked out of my house on Saturday and had to knock on my supers door for an extra set of keys. He then offered up his bed for me to sleep in and tried to invite himself up to my apartment in exchange for my keys.
I was traveling to work with my suitcase on a very crowded train. My back was facing the door and a woman tried to squeeze on the train with her back to my back – a clear sign that she did not want to be inappropriate. But, there wasn’t enough space so she left. The next thing I know, I feel someone slam into me from behind. I turn to see a man who is facing my back continuing to push his body into mine. I try to push him telling him that his penis is touching me. He tells me no and proceeds to try to stand behind me pressing his body into mine. I was able to shift my body so that his front was facing my side, but he clearly violated my space and my body. Of course no mta officer or police were anywhere to be found. Thank God for this site!
This past weekend (August 21-23 2015) I visited my 20 year old daughter who moved to New York in June. She told me she deals with this street harassment on a daily basis. Mainly by construction workers. But while I was there with her we were both harassed. One man just said my daughter was beautiful but that didn’t bother me too much it was another man who said something as we passed then proceeded to follow us singing he wished he was a pair of shorts right now… It’s unacceptable! They should not be allowed to make anyone, especially a young girl, feel nervous and scared to walk down a busy street. What is being done about this now? And what is the money donated go to? Thanks for listening,
Very concerned mom.
I was walking toward Broadway on a residential street, when a car pulled around the corner and stopped next to me. I am wearing clothing I found on the floor of my bedroom, I’m sweating and my hair is thrown up into a mess. The older man driving the car shouts, “I love you, Mami” then speeds away.