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I was out walking with my friend. A passenger in a dark green sedan leaned out of the car window and screamed “bitch” at us, and then continued speeding down James Street. The car was driving recklessly.
While walking to my train, a man walking by was swinging his arm grabbed my crotch. I yelled after him and he just shrugged.
I’m studying for the bar exam and to say I am stressed and exhausted is a gigantic understatement. I went for a walk to get a juice and some fresh air, and as I’m walking down the street, this guy comes up really close and waves at me. I sorta ducked and moved away. Then I hear him make kissy noises behind me. Disgusting. Ruined my walk.
I was trying to cross the intersection at East 51st and 3rd Avenue. A man in a black car was blocking the crosswalk when the traffic light changed. I attempted to cross the street when I technically had the right of way. He stepped on the gas and quickly braked and then honked angrily at me. I flipped him off because he had almost run me over. He waited for me to finish crossing the street before he rolled his window down and shouted out “suck my cock, bitch!” It was loud enough for everyone on both sides of the intersection to hear and everyone turned to look.
These men were hanging out in front of a deli on the corner of 107th and Amsterdam. One was wearing a hat and put his face in front of mine while I was walking and said something obscene. His actions made me feel like he intended to touch me.
Walking from the train station to my apartment building, only two blocks away, 2 men made kissy sounds and calling me “mami” 2 separate times. Both men were middle aged, one was riding down the street on a bike. I am certain that I was not the only person he harassed.
On the corner as I walk home there is frequently a group of young men hanging out. Several times as I passed I’ve had “Hey, beautiful’s” etc. Today I was walking to the store, and was harassed by another man, “Hey gorgeous! How you doin’?” I felt so frustrated by it! So as I walked back from the store, through this throng of young men and one said, “Hey, gorgeous.” I ignored it. He then to me said, “Smile, you should smile.”
WHAT IS IT WITH MEN TELLING WOMEN TO SMILE!? It’s not my job to smile at you! I don’t care if you want me to smile! And you shouldn’t command me to do so!
I stopped, turned around, looked him in the eye, and said, “Please don’t do that.”
He responded with, “What, tell you you’re gorgeous? Okay. I can’t pay you a compliment?”
I stated again, “Please, just don’t do that.”
His other friend started to jump in. But then, to my surprise another young man in the group intervened and started apologizing profusely and told his friends to back off. I was so grateful to him. I thanked him. Then I went home and cried a little from all the frustration of having to deal with this every day. I’m also a little scared to walk by my corner again, but I refuse to deal with this constant harassment!
Walked by two boys, I believe teenage, who started speaking to me (I believe in Spanish, which I unfortunately don’t speak) and gesturing at their crotches while sort of trapping me between them and a tree. I slipped by and flipped them off, at which point they began yelling “stick it up your ass, no wait, I’ll stick my dick up your ass” (in English) and more as I walked away, and I could still hear them after half a block.