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A man sitting on the stoop of 203 W. 94th Street told me he “liked my style, slow and steady”. When I told him that was sexual harassment (not a compliment), he called me “princess” and kept going. I yelled at him. It didn’t help.
I get harassed EVERY DAY in my neighborhood (10025). When will the government do something about street harassment here?! I’m convinced no on in government gives a shit about women.
When I walked to the bus stop in Middletown, at least 5 men talked to me, calling me cute and asking if I need a ride.
My friend just got yelled at on the street by some inarticulate man while we were in the middle of a great conversation, and it totally bummed us out. Stop invading our brain space, man!
My boyfriend and I were out for our Saturday morning walk to the Farmer’s Market, and we were about to pass a little old man who was holding on to a fence post to keep his balance. It looked like he was about to fall, and he waved his hand at me, so I glanced in his direction, prepared to ask him if he needed help. What I got instead was a shouted reprimand: “You are wearing the wrong dress for this neighborhood! It is not a joke!” My boyfriend urged me to pay no heed to the unsolicited comment, but this is not the first time that I have been called out for wearing shorts and a tank top (today it was a strapless shirt, so I really set off alarms), and instead of a beautiful Labor Day weekend walk to the park, I stewed in shame and anger. Sucked.
Again I was out at 8pm walking down 23rd to get to a school event, and again some man called out to me. ‘Have a Nice Weekend I love you.’ Honestly if it had just been have a nice weekend I would have been okay but it’s really creepy to hear I love you from a strange old man.
When I lived in Manhattan by myself I had to endure, DAILY, harassment through comments, catcalls, and grabbing. I was grabbed not only once but four times and all in broad daylight and in crowded areas. One of these times I was walking to work around 10 am on 53 and Madison.
This gang of 20somethings approached me and a guy grabbed me by both shoulders and pulled me right into his face. He said “oh your so beautiful” with this creepy smirk on his face. I told him to get the fuc* off of me. And while all this was happening there was a traffic cop directing traffic RIGHT THERE!
So I ran to the cop and told him what this guy had just done. His response -what do you want me to do about- shrugged his shoulders and turned away. The guys all laughed and walked on. I was so enraged from this and similar events having happened to me that I arrived at work in tears.
My boss, big, tough and not to be messed with, ran outside but the guys had all left. When my boss came back in he said, “Angela, next time something like that happens again, tell me right away because I am always looking for someone to fuc* up. Unfortunately it took yet another man to protect me from men but it did make me feel slightly better. Because according to the cop, I wasn’t worth protecting and that made me feel worthless and helpless.
A man in the park was yelling at me as I walked by, “Everyone look at this elite girl. Girl I’d make love to you so nice. I want to fuck you good” etc. There were dozens of people around but no one said anything.
I wanted to respond but I was afraid that if he tried to hurt me or verbally harassed me more no one would step in. I saw him in the same spot a few hours later yelling at other girls as they walked by but I was too scared of his reaction to say anything about it to him.
Walking down the street when a guy stepped in front of me blocking my path and said “I just want you to know, I think you’re beautiful” I stepped around him and said “No. Go away.” (I wish I had been more direct, telling him that it was not a compliment and he was harassing me but I felt very physically intimidated, especially because the only other people in earshot were his friends who obviously tolerated his behavior) As I walked away he yelled “Bitch!” And other obscenities about my body.