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(Both incidents occurred on the same day)
I was walking to dinner around 10 PM on a Friday night in Midtown when a male passerby said: “You’re the kind of girl I’m looking for to fuck”.
Earlier in the day: I had been shopping for hours because I was leaving for India the next day to see family. So, I was exhausted and lugging massive Macys bags. A man followed me for almost 5 mins repeating, “Miss you’re so pretty, can I have your number”. Even though I told him that I was not interested and yelled at him to leave me alone, he persisted. I had to eventually duck into a store and leave through their 2nd entrance.
There have also been countless incidents when men have yelled out “fucking foreigners” to my mom and I. We are South Asian and my mom usually wears South Asian clothes. I cannot tell you how infuriating and helpless it feels when racist shit is yelled at my parents.
I was running with my headphones on, and I passed by a man a few blocks before I had to stop at an intersection and wait for the light to change. He caught up to me at the intersection and asked me, “can’t you go any faster, you passed me three blocks ago.” I should mention that this man was definitely not a fellow runner. He told me how hot I looked in my shorts. I tried to ignore him and pretend like a I couldn’t hear him. When the light changed, he started to run after me through the intersection and to the other side. I said “leave me alone” and he shouted and cursed at me, and said he’d seen better train wrecks. He couldn’t follow me because I run too fast, but the route was an “out and back” run and I had to pass through the same intersection on the way back – I was so nervous the whole time that he would be waiting for me when I came back. Ugh.
I was waiting to cross the road when this man walking in my direction tried to get my attention by shouting at me “excuse me, miss” three times, increasingly getting louder as he approaches me and sees I’m trying to walk away. I bolt for it across the street and he laughs at me saying “I just wanted to say you look beautiful”. Ummmm it’s dark out and you were too far away to see my face. Wtf
A man appearing to be mid 40s went out of his way to whistle directly in my face and eyed my body down while he did it.
Enjoying a walk in the park, with sunglasses and a hoodie on, and two strangers just had to disturb me. “Hi, Mami…” “Hi, Sweetie…”
I was on my way after work to a class that would qualify me for certification and allow me to advance in my profession. The train was it’s usual rush hour crush. I felt someone humping against my butt and froze. I turned and he smiled at me – when I got off the train I found his ejaculate on my coat. I went straight home and didn’t finish the course because I couldn’t make myself get on that train at that hour. This happened about 35 years ago and I still have bad dreams about it. I hope that if it happened again (doubtful at my current age) I would behave differently and expose the assaulter.
I never told anyone out of fear and embarrassment. This is my first disclosure and I’m crying as I type. It affected the rest of my life – without that certification my career went on a different path.
“I like your glasses. Can I take a picture of you? Just one? Okay, not more than two. Promise.” Outside of drug store.
Walking to the 1 train from my friend’s apartment, a beat up grey car pulled over and the driver yelled a lot of lewd things at me.