Story, verbal

Michelle’s Story: “This should not be something women just have to accept. “

My two friends and I were walking down Amsterdam Avenue. All of a sudden, a guy jumps out and starts commenting on all our “asses.” He startles all of us. We weren’t sure whom he was complimenting and whom he was insulting, but one of us has a flat ass. I started to say something, but then we bumped into a group of people, and the harasser faded into the background We walked away quickly. Fast forward, three hours later, we left the bar. We ran into him again! He recognizes us starts up again, and this time a different friend who left with us starts answering back and I join her. Then he says “Of course the ugly one who no one wants is talking.” I laugh out loud, and he starts yelling at me and/or my friend: “I was talking to the girl in he blue shirt. You need to get a dick in you. You have a smelly pussy.” Over and over again. Even with three other girls, I feel afraid. I want to scream and insult him, emasculate him, but what if he comes up from behind us, follows us, etc?? I am so frustrated! This should not be something women just have to accept.

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assault, Story, verbal

P.’s Story: “I am to be respected.”

Throughout my life I have had men negatively attack me due to the fact that although I have a kind face and a gentle way about me I am also very strong and intelligent. I will stand up against bullying and harassment I have found myself attacked violently because of this. I had one guy pick me up and throw me into the ground because I told him that I was not interested. I had a man walk back and forth at a bar calling me a b*tch because I said I did not need another drink but thank you for the offer. He eventually kicked me in the back of the leg at the bar while I was standing because I did not respond to being called a b*tch. I had men scream at me, physically attack me, spread rumors and threaten me because I said NO. Why men think I should sleep with them just because they said I was beautiful or they took me on a date, I have no idea. The newest rumor is that I am a tease. But lets say I slept with every guy who winked at me – I would be called a slut. How about I sleep with WHO I want and if I want to. This is my body. I am not to be objectified nor treated like a piece of meat. I am to be respected. And if that means being labeled a tease or a b*tch – so be it. Because in the end I have respect for myself and weeded out an a$$hole who would have been a waste of my time.

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nonverbal harassment, Story, verbal

HOLLA ON THE GO: “Two men stared me up and down.”

Carrying groceries to the bus stop two men stared me up and down and said, “hey mamee.”

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groping, nonverbal harassment, Story

Denyse’s Story: 6 Train

Constant harassment on the 6 train during rush hour getting off at GCT. Men think its okay to rub up on you as well as force you to move extremely close to them to get off the train. Needless to say its an extremely crowded time on the train but you know when its being done on purpose when they look at you and smile. Also the men spread there legs so wide when you need to sit so that they can touch you. Its gotten really bad on the trains I must say a constant headache and creepy uncomfortable feeling.

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nonverbal harassment, Story, verbal

Emily’s Story: “They’re actually making me feel worse about myself by calling me a thing.”

I was on my way to work around 7 in the morning. I had just gotten off the train near Brooklyn to transfer onto another train like usual, I sat down near the doors so I could avoid getting pushed by everyone trying to get off at once when a man stood right in front of me and stared at me. I looked down at my phone texting a friend of mine about the way he was staring at me and wouldn’t stop. Slowly he got closer to the point where his lower half was a few feet from my face with his hand on the bar. There was a lot of space around where he could stand and there was even at least three seats open. But instead he chose to stand in front of me and look at me. He said, “hey there pretty thing.” And wouldn’t leave me alone as he continued saying things, still staring at me like, “where are you going to early?” Or, “do you need some company?” It really hurts me how almost every man thinks that they’re complimenting me when they’re actually making me feel worse about myself by calling me a thing.

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groping, Story, verbal

Barbara’s Story: “It was morning, before 8am, and I walked down a quiet street to my job.”

For many years I have experienced verbal harassment, even physical assault when I tried to defend myself, but the most recent experience was two summers ago on my way to work. It was morning, before 8am, and I walked down a quiet street to my job. I heard running foot steps behind me. I thought it was a runner. I was about to walk to the side to let the runner pass when I felt someone grab my rear end. So many things passed through my mind within a split second; “is this someone I know?,” “but how could that be I know no one who would grab me like that as a joke,” and so on. When I turned around it was a man and he said “damn you have a fat ass.” I pushed him and he asked what was wrong with me. What was wrong with me? I yelled back at him “what’s wrong with me? you grabbed my ass, asshole” He ran away. I was so scared. I shook all over, no one was around to help me, no one saw. I had walked down a quiet street in what was supposedly a “good neighborhood.” Needless to say, I never walked down that street again, day or night, alone.

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Story, verbal

HOLLA ON THE GO: Truck Driver to Cyclist

This man relentlessly cat called me in midtown traffic while I was in a cab next to his truck. It was about five minutes of continuous attempts to get my attention.

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groping, Story

HOLLA ON THE GO: Violation

Just going to the bar to get a drink and some creep thinks it’s okay to put his hands all over my ass.

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Story, verbal

HOLLA ON THE GO: Relentless

Can’t even buy groceries without being yelled at.

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assault, stalking, verbal

Skylar’s Story: A Poem

I’m not your honey
Your babe or your boo
I’m on my way to work
Got me a job to get to
So why are you yelling
These ‘compliments’ at me
And why am I ungrateful
I mean c’mon, seriously
You’re being so explicit
With what you’d like to do
And I’m meant to play along
And accept your leering too
But see, here’s the thing
It’s not flattering to me
Intimidating, yes
Disrespectful, definitely
Oh, now I’m a bitch
‘Cos I’m not joining in your game
If I was your daughter
Would you still say the same
What gives you the right
To be so nasty and so crude
Can’t you see it’s not nice
Just unwelcome and damn rude
But seriously, enlighten me
I want to understand
Does this help you feel good
Make you more of a man
Does seeing me embarrassed
Add some humour to your day
Is intimidating women
A victory in some way
I’m not asking for attention
Simply walking down the street
So why are you behaving
Like you’re totally on heat
I’m not here for your amusement
I’m not your plaything, nor your ho
My status and my destination
Are not things you need to know
Can we stop with the insults
Say goodbye to the abuse
I’m intelligent and smart
I’ve got a brain I like to use
Stop, wait a second
Please think before you speak
Quit adding to the cat calls
I’ve been hearing them all week
It’s not only me
That hears the words
That you shout
The boy walking behind me
Heard the holler you put out
He’s not quite yet seven
But he’s the next generation
He’s taking it all in
Getting a street education
He’s learning it’s ok
To taunt females as they pass
To tell them, ‘hey there baby,
I want a piece of that ass’
Guys, you can do better
You can change this
Pave the way
Stop adding to the heckles
Let us go about our day
Consider what you say
Before your words hit the air
Be the good example
Leave the sexist jibes right there

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