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Walking down a train platform last weekend in New Brunswick, NJ with my partner (who was a few steps ahead). This guy says ‘well hello…’ (Or something to that effect) and looks me up and down, following me as I walk with his disgusting leery gaze. Yuck!
I was on the subway when a man began talking very loudly to everyone on the train. It wasn’t entirely comfortable, but at first it was totally innocent an pleasant-he was just telling everyone how much he loved us. Then he came very close to me and stopped walking. He began to talk about something, saw me smile, moved closer and said “I love pretty girls”. Then he pointed at the girl next to me and said “this one’s nice too.”
My girlfriend and I were holding hands walking down the street when a group of about seven young men began to shout “dyke” and “skanky bitch” at us. We quickly ran into a storefront.
I was walking with a few shirts from the dry cleaner when I heard a car honking and a man yelling. I turned to look and a guy was hanging out his car window (stopped at a red light, about a half block away from me) yelling, “hey, can I help you with those?” I ignored at first but he kept yelling as he got a green light and I put my middle finger up. He stopped his car mid-intersection and I could hear things like “fuck you bitch!” I ran down an alley.
Within a minute of each other one man yelled after me “Hey beautiful, I would treat you good. I’ll fuck you good” and another slowed down his car to follow me while making kissing noises and vulgar hand gestures at me. He only drove away when I went inside my building.
This guy was following me and saying “hey sexy” and telling me to smile for him, while making kissing faces at me.
Someone drove by on a bike as I was crossing the street and grabbed my butt. No one around did or said anything. He sped off and I couldn’t see his face.
I was going to visit my husband at work in Harlem and on my way there, a man apparently drunk started yelling at me ”come here you white b*tch! I wanna talk to you” Obviously I ignored him because I didn’t want to escalate the situation. I kept walking. He kept walking behind me yelling. So I picked up my pace and was almost running at this point at which moment I felt a sudden strong painful hit on the back of my neck. I turned around and saw a big rock on the ground. That man literally took a rock and threw it at me for not having turned around to talk to him. I was so scared and so grateful at the same time that he didn’t do something worse like pulling out a knife. Every time I pass by there I get aggressively harassed. Not even catcalled, but straight up sexually harassed and yelled at. Since then I never walk to my husband’s work place, I have to take a cab now to the door, because I feel in danger.
Crusty guy said the infamous: you should smile. And when I didn’t respond got very aggressive and shouted “bitch” at me.