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I am so lucky for my supportive friends in this experience. Especially my boyfriend who always supports me with this stuff.
Today I was sitting with a group of 2 guys and my other friend that is a girl. We were talking about street harassment and I talked about all the times I’ve been sexually harassed on the subway or the street. All guys really are surprised when you tell them these things.We live in a completely different city than they do.
I’ve been masturbated to on the subway 3 times. One man touched me with his penis. I’ve been called names like Mama, gorgeous, honey, sweetie, beautiful. I’ve been told to smile, I’ve been photographed on the way home. I’ve been followed, honked at. I’ve been winked at grabbed, touched, smirked at. I’ve heard things like “let me take you out tonight”, “get back on my seat”.
Women should not have to walk out of the house knowing that they might get sexually harassed. Victim blaming HAS to end right now. I will walk out of the house in a sweatshirt and sweatpants and get cat called. It’s like a second nature to second guess myself if I’m wearing a tight top or one that shows a bit of cleavage.
That’s my decision that my decision to feel sexy and good about my body shouldn’t turn into my problem when you make a decision to stare at me or comment.
People ask my why I’m so passionate about this a lot. My mom was raped, my best friend was raped. Women everywhere are made out to seem like they’re doing something wrong everyday. They’re called a slut a whore a skank a thot a hoe for their own choices and making decisions with their own bodies. Especially high school girls. I see this every day in my high school. A woman should not be judged on her decision to wear a shirt that makes her feel good about herself, that is 0% your problem.
I was walking down the street with my friend on the way back from lunch. I’m a high school girl, I hear voices coming from a car so I turn around. I hear one man go “hey get into the back seat” and another “you can get back on my seat”. I’ve had this happen to me enough times so usually I just let it go but this one set me off in particular.
I told them I didn’t ask them and they should go fuck themselves. Probably wasn’t the best response but I felt so angry and so determined to let them know what they did was not okay. My friend (who always makes fun of me for my feminist rants) wasn’t phased at all. Not at all, I went inside and decided to go back out to take a picture, they were gone but I was still angry. This has to end.
On the uptown a train this morning. This dude was digging around in his fly and rubbing himself. When I told him to stop it and just get off the train, he started verbally assaulting me, telling me to mind my business that he wasn’t there when I “rubbed my puss” to “clean up my mouth” and to “shut the fuck up”
He also took picture of me.
Was walking to st marks last night. Got stopped by a gentleman (despite very obviously not being interested in Convo) who told me he had seen me pass by him and walked back around to tell me he liked my noisy shoes and, when I went to walk away, kept up the convo to tell me I had a nice colour to my face. Was really uncomfortable and walked as fast as I could to st marks. Got to restaurant, tried to go in, got stopped by a DIFFERENT guy who told me I was pretty. I said thank you but I’m gay because he was trying to pick me up, and he continued to halt me from entering restaurant to try to get me on a date. Despite the fact I informed him I was not interested in men. I was actually pretty shaken up by those two things happening so close together.
just witnessed a man across the street, where the sidewalk was dark and empty, grab a woman from behind and then sprint away when she screamed. i called out to see if she was hurt or had been robbed. she said she was fine and had everything, but was clearly shaken.
i’ll be on the lookout for a canvas hooded jacket on my walk home from now on.
Guy selling books on the sidewalk yells “SMILE! PUT A SMILE ON THAT PRETTY FACE” as I walk past.
Me: “You want a smile, look in the mirror.”
Me: “Stop harassing women!”
Guy:” How am I harassing you?”
Me: “You have just refused to respect my right to be left alone, which IS harassing me.”
The look on his face made me think he got it.
Some guy just came up to me and my friend and asked if he could come home with us, then as we were walking away loudly started talking about our asses
Ugh – men hang around on this corner and block your path, call you names, make other explicit remarks, etc.
The north side of the street is usually better as the group tends to hang on the south west corner. I’ve noticed other merchants joining in too- like it’s become very permissive for everyone to do it.
28th in Chelsea holds a 50/50 chance that someone will comment or block my path for a kiss or whistle, etc.
Today was “hey bitch nice legs.”
“Hi, how are you? You look gorgeous”
“Hi, sweetie, you look pretty…what, no thank you??”