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On my walk home from the subway, I passed a man who proceeded to say sexually inappropriate things to me and follow me the entire walk home. I circled the area a few times until he lost interest and left. Did not want to go home while he was stalking me because I didn’t want him to know where I lived.
A group of guys on the subway were loudly pressuring one of their friends to go talk to a woman who was reading a book alone and clearly wanted to be left alone. When the guy hesitated and refused to do it, his friends came over and surrounded the woman, pestering her about what she was reading and refusing to leave her alone despite her clearly looking uncomfortable and intimidated by them. This same group of young men had been verbally harassing other passengers the entire ride.
I was waiting for the train to come at the High Street/Brooklyn Bridge stop and noticed a guy taking pictures on his cellphone. I could see that it was directed at two girls talking to each other but I wasn’t sure if he knew him or what was going on, so I just kept an eye on him. A few minutes later he asked a woman next to him if he could take her picture and she said no, but he kept asking until she walked away. I made sure to keep an eye out, and sure enough he tried to sneak a few of her when she wasn’t paying attention. After some communication done only with eye movements she came over to me to try and avoid him, but he still was trying to take her photo. She yelled at him, but he said it wasn’t a problem and she assured him it was. I had enough and ran back up to the 24hr booth and told an MTA employee who said he would notify a police officer. I had to leave (turned out trains weren’t running) so I have no idea if he was caught or not.
At queensboro, he walks past me and talk to my ear “hello ” I keep walking. waiting for the 7 he walks to close proximity and starts staring at me. I confront him and tell him to stop following me and to stop looking at me and never to wink at me. I take his picture and tell him that I will make sure everyone knows what kind of a cop he is. then he gets defensive about how I don’t know who he is and how he is a cop and denying my allegations
I get these kinds of comments every single day in my neighborhood. Today, I decided to respond.
I was walking my dog after work when I passed a group of three people – two young men and a young woman. As I passed, the woman said to one of the men, “That’s more your type.” He responded by shouting, “Yeah I love a white girl with a fat ass.” I turned around and said, “Stop! That’s inappropriate.”
Another man said, “Yeah guys, just because she likes to take it from behind, that’s OK.” I told him that I have should be able to walk in my neighborhood without being harassed. He told me to calm down because, “This is the Bronx, not White Plains.”
Don’t the men and women of the Bronx deserve better?
I was walking on 30th street and 6th ave, i was waiting to cross the street, this man across the street who was also waiting for the light to change was starring at me and grabbing and rubbing his crotch. I took my phone out to take his pic and he stopped , but he mumbled something to me as he passed… Was pretty gross and im really tired of guys in this city who touch themselves near me.
I was running errands and stopped in to a supermarket to grab some coffee. Walking to the checkout line I was approached by a teenage boy, several times, who asked me if I “needed help carrying that” (I was holding ONE CAN OF COFFEE, thanks but I can manage) – “are you sure?” I told him I was fine and figured he maybe worked there and was just weird.
I went outside and he was right behind me. He said “Miss! Miss!” so I turned around – and then he asked me where I was going. I said “what?” and kept on walking. About 2 blocks later I realized he was still behind me, just walking about 20 feet back. I turned down the street toward my building when I heard him say “Miss! Wait! Can I walk with you?” – so I said no thanks and continued on. He continued behind me. I started walking a little bit faster and he matched my pace. I realized I should NOT walk right home and instead headed toward a busy street.
He continued very close behind me and kept saying he “just wanted to talk to me,” making kissing sounds (am I an animal?), asking where I was going and if I wanted company. I walked into a random convenience store to ditch him. I could see him just standing outside and I stayed until he walked away. When I left the store I doubled back toward my house, and he was sitting on a stoop. When he saw me he got up and started walking towards me, asking if I wanted company. I felt like a jackass at the time but I shouted “LEAVE ME ALONE” and broke into a run – coffee can in hand – for about 3 blocks. HE ACTUALLY JOGGED BEHIND ME UNTIL HE GOT STOPPED BY TRAFFIC AT AN INTERSECTION. I ran to my building and called my husband to laughingly tell him what a nervous weirdo I was – he didn’t think I overreacted and he was furious that some random asshole basically chased me for 20 minutes.
What infuriates me is that now I feel like I have to stay away from that area. I’ve lived in this neighborhood for over a decade and have endured my fair share of idiotic catcalls and obscene gestures but I’ve never been followed by some persistent dickhead who can’t take no for an answer. I jog in the area and now I feel like I have to be on guard when I’m running down the empty, industrial-ish streets over near where that guy started following me. I have had 8 years of boxing training, I carry a keychain that could easily double as brass knuckles, and I FEEL UNSAFE. When do these assholes decide that they have the privilege to invade my space because I have a vagina and they have a penis? How is that ok? Why would you want to race after and chat with someone who was RUNNING AWAY FROM YOU AND NOT ENGAGING YOU AT ALL – what are we gonna talk about? “Hey, do you stalk women home from the supermarket every day?”
I got a “hey beautiful” on my way to the subway. How nice… (sarcasm)
I was coming home from work, tired, and someone in a delivery truck was laying on the horn, for a super long time.
Stupidly, I said “hey, people live over here, thats annoying”
Then the guy proceeds to cuss me out, with the you stupid b**** and f*** you and so on! He goes on and on as I walk of, not saying anything else. Then it gets worse! The guy said “Im going to rape you in the a**!” which is insane, and who even says that?! and makes me hate being outside near my house because of this madness.
So here is the good part! I got a photo of the guys, the truck, and the company phone number. I have the intention to call the company, but just as they were pulling off a cop comes up behind, I wave them down and file a sexual harassment report with the cops. When I got home I called the company and filed a report with their boss (who was mortified by the story) I hope they get the message about their extremely inappropriate behavior.
I do not like having to make these reports, but people need to STOP HARASSING WOMEN
I was approached by 2 men, mid-late 20s. One said “you look sexy in yellow”.
I avoided eye contact and continued walking. he followed me a few paces asking for my name and I said no.