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Walking down the street with my (clearly straight male) instructor after dance class. Several guys in a taxi leaned out and whistled at me.
I was walking to work and some guy in an SUV was stopped at a traffic light. He opened his car window and made kissy sounds at me. I looked around and was the only woman. He nodded and winked at me before driving off.
I was walking into work from the subway. Some guy was leaning against a building smoking. Just after I passed him he shouted after me “Wow! Those jeans look hot on you girl. Tight!”.
I was walking down 2nd Ave after work. A guy leaned out of a truck and yelled “damn girl!”.
I was sitting in the uptown D train when this guy started talking really loudly about a woman sitting next to me. He kept moving closer to her before finally sitting next to her and trying to get her to talk to him. She was ignoring him and I started glaring at him and then told him to stop. He then started yelling about how I was harassing him and he just wanted to make us laugh. I was getting off at the next stop I hope that other woman is ok.
As I was making my way to the turnstiles to exit the 125th St. 4/5/6 station at about 10 AM, there was a man asking for swipes. He made direct eye contact with me and beckoned me to come. I had no choice but to exit through the turnstile closest to him because of the crowd. He brought his hand with which he had been signaling people for a swipe close to me before sweeping it just over my head as I passed.
I was walking on the west side of the sidewalk between 162nd and 163rd on Broadway when a man walking toward me, passed me, then when my back was turned, started following behind me saying “mami, mami. Mmm. Mmm.”
I turned around and said “stop it”, then he ignored me and crossed broadway
My friend was walking to school and an elderly man whispered to her “delicious.”
Creepy man in thirties following me around a Sears in the Newport mall, watching me from a distance then walked in to ask me what color my hair is ( it’s green). I brushed him off he walked away, noticed him staring at me as I left the store about 30 feet awa., I hauled ass to the lightrail, if I didn’t pretty sure he would have followed me.
I have been a victim of several forms of harassment. I don’t live in a big city, but that doesn’t seem to matter. I get stared at and talked to constantly in regular places (grocery store, gas stations, restaurants, trains, online, and just about any where else you can think of.)
I was coming back from NYC on the train. I had picked a spot on the train that was partially away from the others to sleep and listen to music. It was about a 2 hour train ride. A man plopped himself next to me and continued to try to talk to me the entire time. I text my friend to call me, hoping that he would leave. He didn’t. He constantly interrupted, asked if he could give me a massage, wanted my number, and harassed me the whole time. I wouldn’t get off of the phone with my friend until I was safe and sound. I had to endure an hour and 45 minutes with this guy until he got off at the stop right before mine. I would have moved to a different spot, but the train was packed.
I have been practically date raped, hit on several times WHILE ON A DATE. Have had my dates given crude compliments about me. (“Dude bro, hope you score later, she’s HOT!”, etc.). Needless to say, I am not the only one getting harassed, but so are the people I am dating that I care about.
I don’t dress sleazy, I don’t act sexy, and I don’t bring things on to myself. I don’t hit on men and I don’t lead them on.
The most horrific experience I have had while on a date, was being drugged. (I was dating someone I was very close to and knew me well, thank heavens.)
An adult softball team came into the bar/restaurant and a married man who also had his wife with him at the time came up to our table and “chatted” with us. My date excused himself to go to the bathroom. This man continued to talk to me while his wife was sitting across at another table. He got my attention on the world cup playing on the TV. Later, when he left, he knocked on the glass window from outside by where we were sitting and waved eerily goodbye to me. My date and I thought he was creepy, but thought nothing of it because things like this happen so frequently.
On the way home, this is when I began to black out. I told my date I was feeling really sick. By the time I got home and to my room, I sat on my bed and violently threw up. I finally made it to the bathroom and kept getting sicker and sicker. My head was spinning, I was crying constantly and extremely incoherent. I only had one drink and my date had been out with me enough times to know that I wasn’t drunk and that it wasn’t in my nature to get sick. We didn’t have anything to eat, so it couldn’t have been food poisoning.
While my date cleaned up after me, put me in the bathtub and washed my hair, changed my sheets, got me dressed, he was constantly begging me to go to the ER. I told him no over and over again, not understanding what was happening.
I was sick for the next 3 days. Later, I found out that all it takes is 2 drops of the common eye drop, Visine in your drink to get you so ill you could die.
Harassment comes in so many forms, and these are just some examples of many I’ve experienced. I hope to learn more about how to handle situations because I truly have had my life in danger. I am grateful for websites like this one that promote awareness!