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Kaitlyn’s story: Disappeared into the crowd

I was walking up seventh avenue and there was a man walking in the opposite direction a few feet in front of me. He slowed down and got in my way. I tried to walk out of his line but he sidestepped in my direction again. I kept walking but he came up to me. He said “Hey baby” and grabbed my left breast. Then he disappeared into the crowd. I couldn’t do anything. I turned around and said “fuck you” because I was too shocked to think of anything else, and even then, not one person on the street said or did anything to me or him.

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National Organization of Women-NYC Activist Alliance 2013: Apply today!

NOW-NYC is recruiting applicants for 2013 Activist Alliance class. Apply before November 16th!
BACKGROUND:

NOW-NYC is the founding and largest chapter of NOW in the country.  We work to advance the women and girls of New York City through public education, grassroots organizing, lobbying, action, and advocacy.  NOW-NYC aims to promote reproductive rights, advance women’s economic empowerment, and end violence and discrimination against women and girls.

APPLY TO VOLUNTEER WITH OUR ACTIVIST ALLIANCE:

NOW-NYC is recruiting applicants for 2013 Activist Alliance class, a dedicated group of volunteers who will commit to a one-year program with the organization. If you are a feminist with something to say and are eager to jump into today’s pressing women’s rights issues, apply for the Activist Alliance NOW!

Activist Alliance members will have a unique opportunity to build their feminist resumes and networks, all while learning key organizing, advocacy and fundraising skills. Activists who graduate the program will leave with a strong understanding of issues facing women – both regionally and nationally – and how to best harness their activist skills to affect change and create a culture in which women can succeed in all realms.

The Activist Alliance experience includes:

  • In-person activist trainings covering key women’s rights issues in NYC, social media campaigning, lobbying, outreach such as tabling and petitioning, fundraising, and more.
  • Ongoing mentorship by NOW-NYC leadership.
  • Access to local women’s rights leaders.
  • Entrance to NOW-NYC programs and events.
  • Hands on experience with activism, women’s rights campaigns, and the nonprofit world.
  • Becoming part of a growing network of NOW-NYC volunteer and intern alums.
  • Resume builders such as nonprofit project management, communications and development experience

RESPONSIBILITIES:

Activist Alliance members will make a one-year commitment to the organization to:

  • Attend all activist training sessions:   
    (1) Saturday, January 26, 11am-4pm;
    (2) Select Activist Trainings (Tuesday & Thursday nights) – Dates TBA
  • Participate in monthly Activist Alliance Meetings at the NOW-NYC office (held the 2nd Tuesday of each month, 6-8pm)

  • Commit to ongoing special projects and participate in regular events including:
    *Provide ongoing support of NOW-NYC social media campaigns
    *Help organize Activist Nights and social gatherings
    *Spearhead tabling events, phone banking and petitioning
    *Support fundraising and membership development (commit to annual goal)
    *Help organize and attend protests and rallies
Approximate time commitment is 2-3 in-person activities per month (this includes monthly Activist Alliance meetings) and some weekly off-site work.


HOW TO APPLY:

Please send your resume and a completed Activist Alliance application to [email protected]. Deadline for priority applications is November 16, 2012.  Note that the application process will remain open until all positions are filled.

Activist Alliance Application Questions:

  1. Please summarize any of your activist/volunteer experience to date (300 words max)
  2. In your own words, briefly describe your relationship to feminism or similar perspectives (womanist, mujerist, women’s rights, etc.). We understand applicants may have varying definitions of “progressive” and “feminist.” Tell us clearly what those terms mean to you and how you identify with them. (300 words max)
  3. What do you hope to achieve through participating in NOW-NYC’s Activist Alliance? (300 words max)
  4. Why do you think you would be an effective member of the Activist Alliance? (300 words max)
  5. How did you learn about NOW-NYC’s Activist Alliance?
  6. Please list two references (academic or professional).
Applicants will be notified of their status by December. For those accepted into the Activist Alliance, the program will kick off in January with a series of in-person activist trainings.

Women & men of all ages, backgrounds and levels of experience are encouraged to apply.

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DE BLASIO, HOLLABACK CALL ON STATE LEADERS TO PASS NEW LAW PROTECTING STRAPHANGERS FROM SEXUAL ASSAULTS

(reprinted from New York City Public Advocate Bill DeBlasio’s website)

Public Advocate Bill de Blasio and the advocacy group Hollaback! today called on the State Legislature to pass a new law protecting straphangers from “subway grinders.” In a letter sent to Speaker Silver and Majority Leader Skelos, they criticized a recent court ruling that effectively downgraded the seriousness of sexual assaults perpetrated on crowded subway trains. A judge recently threw out felony charges against a repeat offender because he did not use force against his victims—even though he used the crowded subways to assault his victims. De Blasio and Hollaback Executive Director Emily May called for new legislation that would allow prosecutors to pursue felony charges and jail time for offenders found guilty of persistent sexual abuse.
Read the full letter below:

September 18, 2012

Honorable Sheldon Silver
Speaker of the NYS Assembly
Legislative Office Building, Room 932
Albany, NY 12248

Honorable Dean G. Skelos
Majority Leader of the NYS Senate
Legislative Office Building, Room 909
Albany, NY 12247

Dear Speaker Silver and Majority Leader Skelos:

We write in support of strengthening laws to protect transit riders from sexual assault. A deeply flawed court ruling has effectively downgraded the seriousness of sexual assaults in our transit system, claiming that perpetrators can only be charged with a felony if they utilize force during the assault. This most recent decision severely undercut recent efforts to hold “subway grinders” accountable and protect New York City straphangers—particularly women and children. We urge you to swiftly pass a new law that would enable prosecutors to bring felony charges against sex offenders who assault their victims on crowded trains and buses.

We firmly believe that jail time is a necessary deterrent and response to persistent sexual abuse. The crimes involved in recent court cases posed a serious risk to the health and safety of New Yorkers. In one case, a sex offender with 32 prior arrests was facing charges for rubbing himself to orgasm on three young women aged 24, 22 and 17. Incredibly, the judge in the case threw out felony charges on the grounds that no threat of violence was present during the assaults. The decision is ignorant of the reality facing millions of straphangers. Mass transit can create a highly precarious environment as a crowded, over-capacity train or bus leaves little possibility for escape. This fact is not lost on sex offenders.

We commend our District Attorneys for aggressively pursuing these cases and pressing for jail time for offenders. It has taken far too long to address the issue of sexual harassment and assault in our transit system. Now that this issue is finally receiving the attention it deserves, we cannot see existing laws undercut. We urge you to swiftly pass legislation to empower prosecutors to pursue charges commensurate with these heinous crimes.

Sincerely,

Bill de Blasio
Public Advocate for the City of New York

Emily May
Executive Director, Hollaback!

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Hollaback statement on Assemblymember Vito Lopez

Organization Combating Sexual Harassment Calls for JCOPE Investigation and Lopez’ Resignation

BROOKLYN, NY (08/25/2012) (readMedia)– Assembly Member Vito Lopez’ shocking and unacceptable sexual misconduct demands a swift and strong penalty. As an organization dedicated to combating sexual harassment, we call on Assemblymember Lopez to resign from the Assembly and from his chairmanship of the Kings County Democratic Party. We also call on the relevant law enforcement agencies, and the Joint Committee for Public Integrity to conduct the necessary broad investigation to assure New Yorkers, and other employees of the State Legislature that such conduct will not be tolerated.

If we allow Lopez to get away with sexual harassment without consequence, we will inevitably embolden harassers and silence victims.

We applaud the courage of the two unnamed employees of the State Assembly for coming forward with their complaints against a powerful senior member of the Assembly. By sharing their experiences, they have done their part to make the world safer for all of us.

It is often the case that those who feel empowered to sexually harass one or two employees are guilty of a broader pattern of behavior. It may well be that this is only the most recent instance of Assembly Member Lopez’ gross misconduct.

For more information on this case, follow the link for the New York Times article. To sign a petition asking for his resignation, click here.

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Upcoming Event! We’re releasing new data with Cornell, and couldn’t be more pleased.

We’ve been working on this for over a year… and now it’s here! Unfortunately, it’s invite-only due to space constraints. If your nonprofit, union, or business would like to attend, please email holla AT ihollaback.org to see if there is space.

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Beth R.’s story: 13 years of “Catcalia”

Thankfully, I’ve never had to use the “eye gouge” self-defense tactic on any of you rummy part-time catcallers. It would take a real man,
Strapping prime meat of hurling catcalia for me to even consider
Sharpening my nails to the point prepping for an eye gouge.

I ask for it with my f**k me pumps and come hither.
Re-bill you for 2 boxes of nude bandaids for my open sores
In my mouth
Punch in my PTSD clock.

Ward off the projectiles with a contralto (not husky) voice
Take me more seriously in business meetings than a bambi wispy Glinda one.
FYI, if you get an email from the MTA announcing that there is a sick passenger on your trusted subway line; translation sick = dead.
Flip/switch.

Sportscar red works wonders for attracting you, crazies.
The blaze is on my head and in my bush.
Cause red means whore (Emanating Fuckability).
Whore means putain, imprinted Mary Magdalene aura tangles.
Hysteric speeding ticket woman in the underbush.
Galloping her horses woven hair Bikini Thong Way up In There.

Giddy up, harrrassers!
Drive bys with your tongues, in and out streetlights
Booty chasing hobby number 1.

Luscious.
Action in holla back is crippled, upended milk curds.

Red, hey red….you know you’re beautiful. Why won’t you give me a
smile, today, for me? Why won’t you show me your TEEF? You know you’re
Beauttitty ful.

Boom chacalaca boom boom swagger boom (idiot proof these yoga pants already, market them with a rutched skirt apron to hide your ass,
bumper bully.)
Miss, miss can I squeeze your tits?
Hard like diamond ass-bruises with cherries on top?

Gorgeous.
Split melons quick fix. Take me, vector frying
Egg-in-a-puddle sidewalk hard.

God bless. Signed up for ‘dese here horse-blinders on lasix permanent?
Break me off a some of that
Legg’s egg creamsicle drippage.

Mamie. You are beautiful but don’t know it. Mamita. GUSH.
Walk line eye level breast level parallel. DON’T PERK. Invert the nipple
shadow. Let it reside under the dishcloth covering lap of shame on
subway rubbing.

Are these shoes f**k me pumps?

I've got your back!
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A Response to ‘Dear Prudence’

A responce to a recent ‘Dear Prudence’ video:

Dearest Prudence,

While we appreciate your shout out over here at Hollaback! we’d like a chance to clarify a few things which seem to have confused you.  First, there is no right way to Hollaback; it’s totally up to the individual to decide what reaction is best suited for her.  If she is empowered by holla’ing back—awesome.  If not, that’s okay too.  What we do encourage is that she share her story on www.ihollaback.org where she will receive support and an “I’ve got your back” message.

 For a lot of people street harassment is an invasion of their private space—it’s a spotlight that wasn’t asked for, isn’t needed, and is usually insulting and/or degrading.  Hollaback! is about owning your space and supporting others around you in owning their space, effectively making the streets safe for all.  It’s about getting the conversation started that street harassment is harassment plain and simple and it’s not okay.

 You mentioned that holla-ing back is dangerous; we find what’s dangerous is the mentality that silence is the best answer for everyone and is the best way to deal with street harassment.  Studies have shown, women who directly respond to street harassment experience less traumatic effects from it.  We aren’t silent about harassment in the home, we aren’t silent about harassment in the workplace—why should we be silent about harassment in the street?  When trailblazers began conversations about harassment in the home and workplace shit got done.  We’re about making that same movement in the streets.

 Hollaback! is also focused on supporting individuals faced with street harassment as it’s largely a crappy situation that people just ignore—you know that whole “mind your own business” mind-set.  As stated on our website, “By holla’ing back you are transforming an experience that is lonely and isolating into one that is shareable.  You change the power dynamic by flipping the lens off you…and you enter a worldwide community of people who’ve got your back.”

 “Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented”

Holla-out,

Hollaback!

 

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“Say What You Mean, Be Who You Are”

If you haven’t heard about Omega’s new Women’s Leadership Center, which will launch in September 2012, you should definitely check it out.  Founded in 1977, “on the holistic worldview that the well-being of each of us is deeply connected to the well-being of all living things,” Omega has been a part of the non-profit landscape that cultivates and inspires personal and social change.  As such, their new Women’s Leadership Center is looking to break barriers and build connections for women both young and old.  A primary focus for this new center will be on how young girls and women use leadership to change how power operates the world.

 

Omega is conducting pre-launch activities, before the big event in September, which have focused on questions around girls, women, and the media involving a handful of organizations that are dedicated to helping young girls be stronger and be leaders of their own.  Hollaback! was fortunate enough to be included on these conversations.

 

Recently, Hollaback! NYC participated in the discussion “Say What You Mean, Be Who You Are: How Young Women Can Challenge Today’s Media Culture” hosted by Omega and Rachel Simmons who will be partnering up for the workshop “Say What You Mean, Be Who You Are” August 10-12.  The conversation was centered around the skills young women need today to empower themselves to say what they mean and be who they are.

 

Rachel Simmons, author of The Curse of the Good Girl, lead the conversation mentioning that while young women are doing well in school—holding significant leadership positions, outpacing boys in their grade point average and attending colleges in greater numbers—once they leave college young women begin to struggle.  Simmons stated, “while their [young women’s] outer resumes are fairly stellar, their inner resumes are flagging.  And by inner resume I mean the psychological skills that are required to advocate for yourself; to know what you really think and feel; to ask for a raise,…to face challenge and to deal with criticism.”

 

 Simmons went on to discuss a phenomenon which she calls the Super Girl Complex, which is a serious pressure, that girls experience from a young age, to be everything to all people.  Simmons states that girls are growing up feeling that they must constantly perform for others and by doing such they are losing touch with what they want for themselves. 

 

In order to identify what girls what for themselves and how to get what they want, Simmons discussed the focus needs to be on communicating directly mentioning that often times there is a difference between what we say/how we say it and what is really true for ourselves.  For example, if your roommate is playing music loudly and it’s bothering you and she asks you if it’s too loud and you say “not it’s okay,” not wanting to be rude; this is a direct example of you not saying what you mean. 

 

Simmons believes that by communicating directly in simple situations this will translate to communicating directly in serious situations later–  “If you can’t talk…about what you need [now], you will not suddenly develop this skill later.”

 

 This portion of the conversation seriously connects with Hollaback’s message to young women out there.  When you Hollaback! you are exerting your right to be you and you are communicating directly your thoughts and feelings.  You’re owning how you feel and how you define yourself instead of being defined by some creep’s point of view.  While traditionally we are told to walk on—to stay silent, Hollaback’s mission is to empower you to say what you feel.  When you say what you really feel you’re owning your thoughts and you’re exerting your power which is totally badass.

 

 But we’d like to know your thoughts on the matter—do you feel like you subscribe to Super Girl Complex?  Does this effect your ability to confront those who put you down or participate in behavior you don’t appreciate—specifically street harassers?  Speak out!  Your opinions are important to Hollaback!.

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Stress on the Streets

As a new blogger here at NYC Hollaback street harassment has been on my mind more so than normal.  As such I have been hyper aware of how street harassment impacts my life.  My intent focus on street harassment has lead me to this relatively simple conclusion: street harassment is a stressful situation.

Street harassment is typically thought to be a quick interaction, a woman walks down the street, a man whistles or yells her way, the woman keeps walking (or decides to Hollaback!)—end of story.  However this quick synopsis completely neglects a large part of the situation. 

 In my personal experience, when walking down the street alone approaching a man or group of men I automatically tense —anticipating harassment.  This tension proves to be a source of stress for me.  It’s not that I necessarily feel that I am in danger, it’s the uncertainty of the situation coupled with too many past experiences in having been street harassed. 

Street harassment is more than just the verbal exchange it’s also the anticipation of what is going to be said, the concern of ones safety, and the resulting impact of the harassment once it happens.  Add it all up and you’ve got yourself a recipe for a stressful walk home.

Bearing all this in mind, I wasn’t at all surprised by the recently released results of Carnegie Mellon University’s study on stress.  According to the study, 20-something women are more stressed out than their counterparts.  The survey does not mention the source of stress or why it has increased.  I am by no means saying that street harassment is a primary cause of stress among 20-something women, but I’m certain it’s part of it.

Street harassment sucks and stress sucks too.  Street harassment isn’t something that you should have to live with.  You  have a right to walk down the streets without getting harassed.  You have the right to feel like the safe, strong, badass woman you are, so Hollaback ya’ll!  Show the world you won’t tolerate street harrassment and inspire others to do the same.

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